Have you ever woke up on the wrong side of the bed and seems like everything is just going wrong? You know the drill. Wake up late, rushing to get ready and stub your toe really hard. Rush to get to work only to get pulled over and get a ticket for speeding. Arrive late to work and your boss gets on you for being late and it’s only 8:00 AM. How is it possible to turn this wretched day around?
Although it’s completely normal and natural to want to complain about the horrible day you’ve been experiencing. I mean you are in pain and just really want someone to hug you or wave their magic wand and make all of that frustration just vanish. Well maybe you’ll get lucky and find that wand. (I have one by the way) Or just maybe you’ll have someone to give you a big hug and tell you that you are beautiful, wonderful and that you’ll be completely fine and they make all of your boo boos disappear. I believe more in the former than the latter.
If you can’t find that wand or nobody wants to hug you, it is actually better to try to change things around a bit by changing the way you are looking at things. The fastest way to turn it around is to focus on the things you are grateful about. Sometimes when things are really going bad, it can be difficult to think about what is going well. But if you start focusing on what is going well, then you will find that things start improving.
Now I do consider myself to be pretty lucky. I have a roof over my head, food to eat, my health and I currently live in a democratic society. But when I first started doing this it can be challenging to only focus on the things that are going well and or the things that I am grateful about. I mean really if you just received a ticket, it’s normal and natural to feel really frustrated and angry. Angry about whatever stupid situation occurred in which you received a ticket. My most recent ticket had something to do with a cell phone but, that’s not the point of this post.
It’s about learning how to shift from a bad situation to a good situation. It starts with gratitude. It can be difficult to focus on gratitude when things are difficult. But that’s when you’ve got to dig deep. You need to think about your ancestors and all the crap they went through. And how they would be very happy for you and all of your achievements. They would also be amazed at how much food you have. (We’re talking depression era family.)
What would they tell you? You are a survivor if you are alive. Be thankful for everything. So this is about you figuring out what does gratitude look like to you. It’s something to celebrate daily and often (not just once a year).