Are you stressed out and need to calm down? But then once you get yourself to that time and space that you should be able to relax, then your mind just won’t shut off. And if it goes on, unchecked and if you have a poor diet, you will most likely experience anxiety and it could turn into a disorder.
But if you don’t have anxiety yet and want to prevent it, then relaxation can be very beneficial. Especially if you have any kind of injury, then you need to just rest and recover. But no we want to keep going. We don’t want to slow down because then that will somehow mean that we gave up. As I am writing this, I am describing how difficult it is for me to slow down.
You see after working 26 years in a career that was high stress, it takes a while to slow down. And even as a trained yoga instructor, who should allegedly know better, I still have difficulty slowing down and so I can only imagine for most people it can be very difficult. Some people are really good at relaxing. They can fall asleep fast and sleep until they are well rested which is a gift. ( I hope you recognize that gift, if this is you.)
But our culture doesn’t really support the concept of slowing down. I mean we have to do well in school. This is so we can get a job to support ourselves and maybe our families assuming that men and women will still be able to produce children in the future with the current state of health in the US.
Our culture supports working and also there is just too much to be done. Especially if you are a parent. You must carve out some time for you.
So the concept of slowing down and just focusing on relaxing is an unusual concept which I am allowing myself this time. I am noticing that it is super important to just stretch and relax a lot. Also to recognize something that’s causing stress. Maybe it’s a horrible song on the radio and it’s causing you jaw tension, change that shit with the quickness.
Also there has to be the concept of good enough. At some point, your workout has to be good enough. Hey you hit all the major groups and stretched, you’re good. There is no need to run 10 miles and do 100 push ups. If you are not training for an event then allow yourself healing. And many of us need to heal. The body recovers when it rests. When you sleep and eat healthy and relax.
Again meditation just has to be a part of it. I know it’s the big M word that nobody wants to do but it works. Or call on your higher power and ask for help. Archangel Michael and Archangel Raphael are super powerful and they will help you but you must remember to ask. Of course you can always call on Jesus, Buddha or whatever concept your higher power represents, just call on it. Relax, pray or meditate. Then after that things seem much more manageable. Don’t forget how Jesus went to the desert for 3 days to fast and pray. (Is that correct? My biblical stories aren’t very good. My point is that Jesus meditated and I know some Christians that have resistance to meditation. But if Jesus did it, then what’s the problem?)
You can choose to see the stress and drama but then release it as soon as possible. You can minimize the stress by how you choose to look at it. Again turn it around to gratitude as soon as you can. If you are feeling weak in your legs, immediately think, “Thank you for my legs, that I can walk.” And if you really want to be a warrior, say, “Thank you for my strong legs.” Speak that of what you want to happen.
You are stronger than you know but you have to learn to connect to your higher power. Otherwise it can be difficult if you try to rely on yourself and do everything. You’re good but everyone needs help!!
Valerie is a Health and Wellness Coach. She lives in Northern California with her daughter and puppy. Please feel free to email her here.