During a recent conversation with a wise friend, I told him I was freaking out. I had too many things on my mind, I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do, I was very angry and knew I was not thinking straight.
This wise friend told me to get a pen and paper and make three columns:
Column 1)Things that are going good in my life that I have control over them. Example: I’m walking everyday, I am eating fruits and vegetables, I am physically able to do everything I do in my life, I can listen to any song I want at any given time ( whoa that’s huge!!) My sacred dance.
Column 2)Things that I can control that are not good: example recent weight gain (whatever), clutter around my home, my attitude, talking too much
Column 3) What other people think, feel, do, how people eat, commit crimes, other people’s diseases, politics.
After I wrote this down, I realized that I was putting a great deal of my frustration on things I have no control over. I said “Whoa, I need to focus on my own issues and let those other things go for a minute. It doesn’t mean I don’t care about social issues but, take a rest from it for a minute and focus on what you can control for a couple of days.” And he said, absolutely. I kind of had that Dorothy feeling when she found out all she had to do was click her heels together and she could go home.
I instantly calmed down and I didn’t feel so lost. I just have to keep reminding myself, “This is not my problem today.” Then I finish folding towels after I take a deep breath of course.