Why This Saying is Wornout But True: “Hurt People, Hurt People”

Hurt People, Hurt People Is An Annoying Saying

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If you have ever been to any support groups and someone will say, “Hurt People, Hurt People.” And yes it’s true but whenever someone says it, you feel like telling them to STFU. It’s been said too many times and it’s just like not a good answer. All you know is a person hurt you and you want them to suffer A LOT for the terrible thing they did to you. And then when you realize all the stuff the Hurt Person had to deal with, it makes sense that they are so mean.

What Are Things You Can Do That Will Actually Help Change a Situation?

  • Making a plan is so therapeutic. You can write down what happened and figure out your next plan of action. Of course you can complain and cry and suffer endlessly or you can take all of that frustration and try to turn it into a workable plan for you. You can figure out how you can change things a little so you can start to create a better life.

  • For some reason getting up and moving around helps you to feel better. Start to clean up your physical environment, put away laundry, throw out trash, dust, pulling weeds will help you to accomplish something and you will feel better after you are done. It’s difficult to clean someone else’s mess. So why not focus on your own mess and let them clean up their own mess for a minute. You can help someone clean their mess but perhaps you have things you need to accomplish for yourself. There’s nothing wrong with helping others but make sure to take care of yourself too.
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Turn OFF Electronics!!!

I’ll let you marinate on this for a while. It’s your own call. Why don’t you pretend it’s 1994 and put your phone away and listen to the Radio, read a book, take a walk, draw, color, play an instrument and you got it!! For some reason technology is SOOOO draining. DUMP IT!!

How About Cooking Something?

It’s been a while but maybe try cooking something. Perhaps your favorite dish. That will make you feel better. For some reason Oatmeal Cookies just keep popping up… so let’s make some oatmeal cookies. Dig out a recipe to start. Then see what ingredients you need. It’s not that hard.

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Got Cardio

It’s a drag to do cardio but somebody has to do it for you so it may as well be you. It’s time to torch off that pandemic weight gain. You can do it!! Just start a little at a time and you’ll be back.

This will wake you up!!

TURN OFF NEWS

If you need to know something, someone will tell you. You might be traumatized by the news and or addicted to the drama associated with the news. You might need professional help or a support group.

That’s It For Now. Take care and Be Extra Nice To EVERYONE.

Valeria is a Mom and music student. She sings, plays piano and dances for fun.

How To Freshen Clothes After Being Around People

Have You Been Around People and Feel Unclean?

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First of all this is not based on scientific evidence. It’s something I started doing because it just makes common sense and it makes my clothes smell great and it gives me a great sense of comfort. This in no way takes the place of laundering clothes, washing hands and social distancing. But it might make you feel better if someone not wearing a mask sneezed or coughed around you. Be advised this has not been tested and not sure what the outcome will be on clothes.

What you need to make:

  • Spray Bottle (you can use any old body spray bottle) can be anywhere from 2-8 ounce. Remember you have to carry around with you so you don’t want something too big to weigh you down
  • alcohol (may use vodka if you don’t have alcohol)
  • essential oil (lavender, peppermint, tea tree, lemon) You can use whatever kind of essential oil you have but these listed are cleansing. The alcohol should clean virus and the essential oil is like icing on the cake.
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How to Make?

  • Pour alcohol in spray bottle not all the way to the top.
  • add essential oil . It’s hard to say how much to add because I’m not sure what size bottle you’re using. But I’m not scientific about it. Since it’s going on your clothes it’s not as critical as if you are putting on skin. Use your common sense. I add until I can smell the essential oils. If you can’t smell it after spraying then you need to add more essential oils. A little goes a long way. Start with a few drops and add accordingly..
  • Put lid on and spray

How to Use?

The uses are endless. But say you just went to the store and you are wearing mask and eye protection and maybe face shield. But after you get outside and before you get in your car, you can spray it all over. Start with spraying all around you and walking into mist. Spray on front and back of body and don’t forget shoes.

If you work and after you get to your desk, spray everywhere. Let it just evaporate. If you want to clean, go ahead but justspraying on there should do something. I would spray around public bathrooms.

Not sure if this works

But it sure does smell good and unless you have allergies, it should be harmless. But use at your own risk. And whether or not this actually does anything remains to be seen but it sure does make me feel better and at this point, that’s all that matters.

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Thanks for keeping it clean. Doesn’t it just feel better when things smell fresh and clean? Make this and spray it everywhere. If you walk into an area and it smells gross get away as fast as you can (why) because those particles entered your nose in order to smell. So that’s why you don’t want to be around stinky smells. Spray that and then go in. Another nice thing you can do is spray this in your mask and then put on because some face masks just don’t smell so good. But don’t huff the hand spray. Let it air out before you put on.

If you dine out spray this before you enter any room to let anything settle down and wipe off table with wipes and stay home if you’re sick.

THIS IS WHAT YOU CALL COMMON SENSE BUT NOT EVALUATED BY ANYONE….Maybe you have something that works just as good or better. Thanks for using and share this with those you care about or share your own concoction. This is about helping each other out during this time. Let’s just relax and keep it clean and social distance, wear masks and wash your hands. Respect people and wear a mask or stay away from them. RESPECT EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!!! OK Bye

How To Be Strong In Body, Mind and Spirit the Easy Way

How To Be Strong In Body..

But depending on your current health condition, this is going to determine what kind of exercise you do. But the main thing is to start moving around and start walking, stretching and getting your heart rate up. If you have no concept of exercise or maybe are recovering from an injury then you really want to start out very slowly. Pilates is a great!! But it has to be a gentle class. Then once you get those principals down you can integrate those activities into your daily life.

For example if you have to type or be on your laptop, as you type you can ensure that you sit up straight. If you really want to go gangster with it you can engage your abs. So basically you have to engage your core when you do your daily living activities. If you are lifting, use your legs. These are just examples of what you can do. But no matter what you do start out slow and start to become aware of how the body actually moves.

Listen To PodCast How To Be Strong In Body, Mind and Spirit Here

How To Be Strong in Your Mind

A little coloring can take away stress.

There are many ways to be strong in your mind. Reading, puzzles and music are great ways to have a strong mind. You have to use your brain in different ways. This means that you try to do different things basically. Use your non dominant hand to brush your teeth, Walk a different route. Just do something different. If you usually have tea at 2:00 in a certain room, go to a different room. Call an old friend and catch up. Learning new things is another way to be strong in your mind. Meditation can also help to allow your mind to focus on one thing for a specific period of time.

How To Be Strong in Spirit

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This one is really tricky. Nobody can tell you how to be strong in spirit. It’s something you have to figure out for yourself. I can tell you how I do it but then you would find a reason why my way is the wrong way. But I know what works for me. I think the most important thing to do is to have an attitude of actually wanting to connect with your higher power. You must have the intention that you want to connect.

Often times this comes about during times of great grief. When you lose a loved one or have tragedy. When people have nowhere else to go then they will turn to God. I think a good old fashioned praying on your knees is a good thing. There’s nothing wrong with it. Pull out that bible and crack it open. Just start to ponder how Jesus is working in your life.

Meditation and prayer along with yoga are also a great way to connect with your higher power.

So now you have a basic concept of how to be strong in your Mind, Body and Spirit. It’s not easy or difficult. You just have to try. Just try to have fun more than anything and remember that your life is whatever you chose to focus on.

In Case You Miss Rhea Fusion Check Out Tribal Fusion Dancer

Rhea Fusion is a Tribal Fusion Dancer

In Case you missed out on her interview, you can check it out here. She’s a tribal fusion belly dancer. She has a background in Flamenco, Tribal Fusion Belly Dance and Hip Hop. It’s interesting to watch dancing because it takes into consideration the full integration of dance styles. See if you can pick up a little of her ballet, hip hop and belly dance influence.

Real Soul Filled Performance

In this performance she is accompanied by live musicians which can be more difficult because you have to practice with them. But in any case she did it effortlessly. The more people you add into a performance the more magical but also the more you have a chance of someone making a mistake. But it’s all part of a live performance because people are imperfect and can make mistakes but that’s why when there are no mistakes it’s like “BRAVO!!”

As a dancer myself, I encourage others to dance because it’s just so beneficial and fun as well. But you really have to have a strong foundation to be a great dancer. Also good instruction is key as well. Also having a strong physical body is of the utmost importance for dancers because to be honest, it’s quite easy to injure yourself.

If you read the article about Rhea Fusion, you will see that she teaches pilates as well as dance. So in my opinion, pilates is the foundation for all dancers. It’s just so great at strengthening the core and that’s what all dancers need is a strong core. But actually EVERY BODY needs a strong core so get into a pilates class quickly. Start today or tomorrow but don’t put it off if possible.

Isn’t this just awesome photography of Rhea Fusion? So creative!!

All you really need to get started is a space on the floor and a beach towel. And do BEGINNER PILATES. Not any of this ADVANCED or HIGH INTENSITY stuff. OK Just slow and steady beginning pilates and you’ll begin to feel the magic. There are a million resources on line. I prefer Balanced Arts and Sciences International (BASI) or Balanced Body Pilates BUT do whatever you think is right. You can also order books and DVD’s or go on YOUTUBE. But just know not all instructors are created equal and some are just better than others. So you have to research. I know it’s a bummer. But if you buy instructional books or DVD’s they are usually pretty good.

Just start having a little excitement finding new instructors and researching. You’ll find your peeps before you know it and be glad that you did.

Valeria Star is adapting to this new lifestyle. She encourages others to pursue their passion. She enjoys singing, dancing and yoga. She also has a podcast.

Here’s another video of Rhea Fusion if you haven’t had enough. Just check it out it’s cool. Trust me, I know cool when I see it. XOXO

PEACE IS HERE AND NOW MANIFEST.

Oh yeah and let’s just have a nice tall glass of CALMING TEA. Staying Calm won’t hurt you and it certainly can help. Breathe a lot and start thinking of how amazing things can be. Oh yeah and If someone comes at you with a conspiracy theory. Tell them you need to go do some Pilates. Bye And say a big prayer every chance you get and I want you to know that a whole bunch of prayer GODDESSES are praying for you right now. You can join the club by simply praying. It’s Easy. OK Bye For real!!

Meet dancer Rhea Fusion

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Name
Rhea
What City is home?
Budapest/Hungary
What type of dance do you do?
I have danced classical bellydance for 15 years and I have fallen in love with tribal fusion bellydance for 6 years. I have learned flamenco and modern dance too when I was a child. I am very inspired by ballet and hip hop (currently studying), so I mix all these together in my own dance style. I also love to teach and practice Pilates.
Who’s your favorite dancer?
Mercedes Nieto
What’s your dream?
To make the most out of this life.
What’s your favorite song?
Páva by Ferenc Snétberger
What’s one wish you hope comes true?
I hope after the Covid 19 people will understand that we can't go on like before. We have to change our mind and our attitude and think about the Earth. We are one and we have to take care of it and each other.
What is your opinion on wellness?
If you can feel the gratitude for the things around you, have love in your heart and be in the present moment. These are essentials.

A Little Dance with AnnaMaria to Calm Your Mind

AnnaMaria sure does have a graceful movements. I hope you can take a minute to observe. It’s challenging to slow down even for a couple of minutes. But if you do, I think you will be glad you did.

During this time it’s a great idea to slow down and focus on just the basics. What is easy? Do that. What comes easy? Do that. Why make things harder than you need to?

Valeria chilling with trees.

Want to learn more about the author? Check out her podcast. https://anchor.fm/valeria641

Ready For a Little Naked Cabaret Teaser with Shilly Nakedmoon?

We all Need a Little Dance To Brighten Our Days

Some of you may remember Shilly Nakedmoon from a prior blog post. Well fast forward to Pandemic 2020 and Shilly was able to sneak in a little performance in March (which I missed since she lives in UK and I live in USA but thanks to social media, I felt like I was there.)

Shilly has an eye for fashion and I really LOVED the costuming in her video. The Videographer gets a lot of credit for editing this captivating creation.

A nostalgic throwback to 14th March at Nakedmoon Cabaret! What a show it was. And only just in time before lock down. Thank you the amazing artists and performers who helped me make it happen. I’m Brewing up something wicked for when we all are allowed out to party again….
Sending love and sparkles, hope this lifts your heart
Much love Shillyxxx
Thank you to MiMiMedia for the videography

Shilly is a dance teacher at Dhakini Dance and due to pandemic she has taken her classes on line but For more information on classes with her click here.

This video here really knocked my socks off. Her mom is a fashion designer and I might be getting story wrong but she designed costumes in this video which were so beautiful.

If you Can’t Dance Then Watch Dance and Support Dancers

Dancing is very difficult and like other artists they often don’t get any encouragement, praise or money. But I just want to support other dancers because I know how much time and effort they put into this beautiful art form. And it’s just so beneficial for your whole life. And then for the people that actually want to teach others? They deserve a nobel peace prize because it is not easy to teach and especially teach dancers. Who are not the easiest to work with. We ask a lot of questions, don’t practice and then get mad at teacher for stupid reason and then quit going and then come back and then get jealous and then we end up appreciating them in the end. But let’s show a lot of love to UK from USA and the world to Shilly. Just for having courage to share this beautiful art form.

Valeria Star lives in Nor Cal. She loves to sing and dance when she’s not running with her dog. We’re all in this together. Let’s make this a better world.