Tips for Sensitive People to Protect Their Energy

Originally Published on Psychologytoday.com on Dec 16, 2014 By Judith Orloff M.D.

Sensitive people or empaths have an ability to be emotional sponges that can heighten when they are at a social event, around co-workers, or in crowds. If empaths are around peace and love, their bodies assimilate these and flourish. Negativity, though, often feels assaultive or exhausting.

For empaths to fully enjoy being around others, they must learn to protect their sensitivity and find balance. Since I’m an empath, I want to help them cultivate this capacity and be comfortable with it.

I’ve always been hyper-attuned to other people’s moods, good and bad. Before I learned to protect my energy, I felt them lodge in my body. After being in crowds I would leave feeling anxious, depressed, or tired. When I got home, I’d just crawl into bed, yearning for peace and quiet.

Here are six strategies from my book, The Ecstasy of Surrender to help you manage your senstivity more effectively and stay centered without absorbing negative energies.

  1. Move away. When possible, distance yourself by at least twenty feet from the suspected source. See if you feel relief. Don’t err on the side of not wanting to offend anyone.  At the gathering try not to sit next to the identified energy vampire. Physical closeness increases empathy.
  2. Surrender to your breath. If you suspect you are picking up someone else’s energies, concentrate on your breath for a few minutes. This is centering and connects you to your power. In contrast, holding your breath keeps negativity lodged in your body. To purify fear and pain, exhale stress and inhale calm. Picture unwholesome emotions as a gray fog lifting from your body, and wellness as a clear light entering it. This can produce quick results.
  3. Practice Guerilla Meditation. Be sure to meditate before the gathering, centering yourself, connecting to spirit, feeling your heart. Get strong. If you counter emotional or physical distress while at an event, act fast and meditate for a few minutes. You can do this by taking refuge in the bathroom or an empty room. If it’s public, close the stall. Meditate there. Calm yourself. Focus on positivity and love. This has saved me many times at social functions where I feel depleted by others.
  4. Set healthy limits and boundaries. Control how much time you spend listening to stressful people, and learn to say “no.” Set clear limits and boundaries with people, nicely cutting them off at the pass if they get critical or mean. Remember, “no” is a complete sentence.
  5. Visualize protection around you. Research has shown that visualization is a healing mind/body technique. A practical form of protection many people use, including health care practitioners with difficult patients, involves visualizing an envelope of white light around your entire body. Or with extremely toxic people, visualize a fierce black jaguar patrolling and protecting your energy field to keep out intruders.
  6. Define and honor your empathic needs. Safeguard your sensitivities. In a calm, collected moment, make a list of your top five most emotionally rattling situations. Then formulate a plan for handling them so you don’t fumble in the moment. Here are some practical examples of what to do in situations that predictably stymie empaths.
  • If someone asks too much of you, politely tell them “no.” It’s not necessary to explain why. As the saying goes, “No is a complete sentence.”
  • If your comfort level is three hours max for socializing–even if you adore the people — take your own car or have an alternate transportation plan so you’re not stranded.
  • If crowds are overwhelming, eat a high-protein meal beforehand (this grounds you) and sit in the far corner of, say, a theatre or party, not dead center.
  • Some empaths are highly sensitive to scents, if you are overwhelmed, for instance by perfume, nicely request that your friends refrain from wearing it around you. If you can’t avoid it, stand near a window or take frequent breaks to catch a breath of fresh air outdoors.

If all else fails and you absorb stressful or negative energy while at a gathering when you get home take a bath or shower. My bath is my sanctuary after a busy day. It washes away everything from bus exhaust to long hours of air travel to pesky symptoms I have taken on from others. Soaking in natural mineral springs divinely purifies all that ails.

Dr.Orloff shares more about empaths in The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People

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Judith Orloff, M.D. is the author of The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People, upon which her articles are based. In the book she educates readers about empaths, highly sensitive people, and offers strategies for anyone who wants to avoid narcissists and transform difficult emotions to positive ones. Dr. Orloff is a psychiatrist, an empath, and is on the UCLA Psychiatric Clinical Faculty. She synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, energy, and spirituality. Dr. Orloff also specializes in treating empaths and highly sensitive people in her LA based private practice. Dr. Orloff’s work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, the Oprah Magazine and USA Today. She is a New York Times best-selling author of Emotional Freedom, Positive Energy, Guide to Intuitive Healing, The Power of Surrender and Second Sight. Connect with Judith on Facebook and Twitter. To learn more about empaths and her free empath support newsletter as well as Dr. Orloff’s books and workshop schedule, visit her website. Republished with explicit written permission from the author. Join her empath Facebook community for sensitive souls Here.

Interview with a Psychic

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I first met Mayra at a Health and Wellness Fair in the North San Francisco Bay Area.  She gave me the most amazing Tarot Card reading.  The absolute best I’ve ever had.  Let’s just say December is going to be the most amazing month.

She went to San Jose State and majored in marketing.  When I saw her booth set up, it made complete sense because her booth was so inviting. It had some beautiful soft fluffy blankets and some plush cushions.

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After she graduated, she did the usual of working very hard to climb the corporate ladder.  But she was finding things very difficult and she decided to quit her job and move back home as she felt very lost.  This was a difficult time when the unthinkable happened. A dear close relative ended up with a life threatening disease and she was actually able to assist her mother who was at Reiki II practitioner at the time.

Recently I had the opportunity to sit down with Mayra a Clairvoyant  who is also a Blue Lotus Reiki Master/Teacher  and Medium who also does Tarot and Card and Oracle readings at https://www.solzana.com.   She is a Clairvoyant who like most healers began with the realization of self healing.  She had gone to a workshop called Meet your Angel at The Mystic Dream in Walnut Creek, CA and she went into a deep meditation and met her Arch Angel Michael.  He showed her that her hands were filled with light and that’s when her journey to Reiki began.

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I asked Mayra since she’s a Clairvoyant, how does she get her messages?  She said usually it is not like a picture but it is through her third eye or mind’s eye she is able to have recurring thoughts or visions of different things.  And the thought will repeat in her mind and that’s how she is able to give her reading.  She has the benefit of speaking with the Spirits so she can hear them, she can see them which means that they convey images or colors and then she translates it to what makes sense.

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I asked Mayra if she’s ever experienced synchronicity.  She said yes that everything she does is like being guided by the Universe.   When on the wrong path, everything becomes very difficult.  She has to work very hard at whatever it is she is trying to do. Whether it be a job or a relationship.  When you are on the right path everything is facilitated for us.  Things tend to flow smoothly and you have a huge sense that you are on the right path.

She indicated she was coping with illness of a family member and she was reevaluating her life as she felt lost.   While going through this difficult time she read the book, The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho  It says that things will happen smoothly when you are following your path.  When she read that book she felt extremely lost and didn’t know what to do.  She was trying to force her life into what life expects of you. It’s a story of a guy is traveling the world and he noticed that whenever he’s going against his path or journey it’s harder.  And when he goes into the right direction everything just becomes easier and falls into place.  Mayra learned that family is the most important and that we must value and live each day sit could be your last.

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Now she she’s doing her passion, everything is so much easier. For questions you can contact Mayra and she offers services in Tarot and Oracle Card Readings, Reiki, chakra balancing and House/Business blessings and atonement for all levels of Reiki but the most important thing is to find somebody that you are comfortable with.

Mayra advises that if you go to a mystical shop and they have free sessions, go try the free sessions.  See what you feel comfortable with.  Do you feel comfortable with these teachings and this practice.  She welcomes anyone to email her through her website or a phone conversation when she’s available.    There are so many different healing methods and she wants her clients to feel comfortable with her and healing process and their own journey.  You can email here at Solzanahealing@gmail.com.

This was a very informative interview for me and if you want to meet Mayra, she will be facilitating  a Reiki Share event in Vacaville, CA at Bounty Books on September 26, 2018 at 7:00 PM.  Space is limited and you may contact Bounty Books directly for more information.

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