Ready For a Little Naked Cabaret Teaser with Shilly Nakedmoon?

We all Need a Little Dance To Brighten Our Days

Some of you may remember Shilly Nakedmoon from a prior blog post. Well fast forward to Pandemic 2020 and Shilly was able to sneak in a little performance in March (which I missed since she lives in UK and I live in USA but thanks to social media, I felt like I was there.)

Shilly has an eye for fashion and I really LOVED the costuming in her video. The Videographer gets a lot of credit for editing this captivating creation.

A nostalgic throwback to 14th March at Nakedmoon Cabaret! What a show it was. And only just in time before lock down. Thank you the amazing artists and performers who helped me make it happen. I’m Brewing up something wicked for when we all are allowed out to party again….
Sending love and sparkles, hope this lifts your heart
Much love Shillyxxx
Thank you to MiMiMedia for the videography

Shilly is a dance teacher at Dhakini Dance and due to pandemic she has taken her classes on line but For more information on classes with her click here.

This video here really knocked my socks off. Her mom is a fashion designer and I might be getting story wrong but she designed costumes in this video which were so beautiful.

If you Can’t Dance Then Watch Dance and Support Dancers

Dancing is very difficult and like other artists they often don’t get any encouragement, praise or money. But I just want to support other dancers because I know how much time and effort they put into this beautiful art form. And it’s just so beneficial for your whole life. And then for the people that actually want to teach others? They deserve a nobel peace prize because it is not easy to teach and especially teach dancers. Who are not the easiest to work with. We ask a lot of questions, don’t practice and then get mad at teacher for stupid reason and then quit going and then come back and then get jealous and then we end up appreciating them in the end. But let’s show a lot of love to UK from USA and the world to Shilly. Just for having courage to share this beautiful art form.

Valeria Star lives in Nor Cal. She loves to sing and dance when she’s not running with her dog. We’re all in this together. Let’s make this a better world.

How To Get Over a Breakup

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Have you ever had to get over a broken heart from a relationship? It can be one of the most painful things to endure. It’s like your heart gets ripped out of your body and you’re supposed to walk around like everything is normal on the outside. But on the inside you’re so sad, depressed and you can also be filled with feelings of anger and rage depending on the circumstances of the break up. There can also be real serious issues such as alimony, child support and loss of income. But let’s just pretend it’s just a normal break up. Also assume that there are no legal consequences and you won’t be in financial turmoil because that’s just too much to deal with in a single blog post.

Establish a Support

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It’s time to call your network of support. Friends, family, psychological support and anyone else you trust to tell your story. Just be honest about what happened. You have 24 hours to create this network because you don’t want to just keep talking about this issue for weeks which can turn into years. You can have more than 24 hours to set this up but the whole point is that you don’t want to get over this relationship. The longer you continue to discuss it and rehash the hash, the longer it will continue. Tell your network, “I need support getting over this relationship. Can you help me do this?” 9 times out of 10 they will say, “Yes, I’ve got your back. What can I do to help you.” You need emotional support only. This isn’t a smear campaign and you don’t have to share every gory detail. Just say you need support getting over this relationship and leave it at that. Of course you can tell the whole story but just know the more you continue to discuss it, the more you are breathing life into a dead relationship.

There are Different Levels of BreakUP

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Perhaps you need to develop a relationship with yourself instead of giving everything to a relationship. Perhaps you want to keep the lines of communication open because there’s a possibility you might get back together. Perhaps you just need to establish firm boundaries within the relationship. So we’ll start out there and then go to the point where you are literally DONE with the relationship. NO WAY will you go back!!

Stage 1 (Keeping Options Open)

Now perhaps your partner is ignoring you and not giving you the time of day. You still love eachother but it’s not working for you. You spend your time obsessing about when you will hear from them and crying because they don’t text you back like they used to. Something is wrong and you don’t know what to do. What do you do?

Answer: Call your network and tell them you need support. You must decide what it is that you want for yourself. So what do you want? Tell your partner in an I statement. “I have decided to start taking care of my health. I am going to start walking and eating more healthy.” As an example. If they don’t respond back that’s their choice but you will still allow them to remain in your life for 30 days. After you send that final text give them 30 days to respond. If they don’t respond within 30 days BLOCK THEM on your phone. If they want to get a hold of you, they can send you an email. Now during this 30 days you will need to start new habits. Perhaps it’s a great time to start a new hobby or maybe just start to clean up your place. Stay busy. Read books, watch movies, connect with friends but under no circumstances are you to contact them. After the 30 days you will have more clarity about how you want to move forward.

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My Heart is Broken but I Cannot Stay

If you are done and ready to move on you will need your network. You will need a journal and perhaps professional help. You are going to have to go 30 days with no contact from this individual. It’s most recommended that you block them from your phone and cut off all communication. You will miss them. You will cry. You will want to call them to tell them something funny. During those times that you want to contact them, pull out the journal and write down your feelings. Call someone from your network and tell them how you’re doing. If you are feeling anxious or depressed, contact your Dr.

It’s during times like this that singing and dancing can really help you to feel better. You have to get your endorphins going to help you feel better. Avoid alcohol and drugs because they don’t really help on the long run. They are just a big nasty band aid that is only going to make you feel worse later. Later you are sad and hungover. It’s better to just feel your feelings and then the next day you will feel better day by day. Again emphasis on cardio. Start easy and try to do something you enjoy. Listen to upbeat happy music. Watch a happy movie!! It will get better baby but one thing is for sure, you won’t be putting up with treatment that is unbecoming of you.

Valeria not caring if she ever hears from you again. Play games she said. You can’t play a player. She’s a Health and Wellness Coach in Northern California. She encourages everyone to follow their dreams and passions.

A Grateful Heart is a Happy Heart

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At this time of you gratitude is in the allegedly in the air. It is on everyone’s mind as they make Thanksgiving plans. But, have you ever given anyone a gift and never heard anything back? Does it make you want to rush out and get them another gift to throw into the black hole of disregard? Or when you give a gift and you get a big smile with a hug and a big “Thank You I appreciate that so much!! It was very thoughtful and kind of you.” Then they follow up with a text, email or a card to again say thank you. Which one of those people do you think is happy?

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It’s not that everyone has to be happy or even that you have to receive gratitude but it works the same way with the Universe and with God. You see when you show gratitude what happens is that you change your vibration into a positive mindset. Things may not be perfect. You can actually be going through a very difficult time but still show appreciation for things.

How Does it Work?

I believe in whatever you put out comes back to you. And gratitude has been proven to shift your energy from negative to positive in the blink of an eye. You kind of have to experiment but it’s not going to just happen overnight. You have to PRACTICE it over and over and then it just becomes a positive way of viewing things.

How do you do it? Well you simply have to take a deep breath in and say silently to yourself, “I am grateful for my breath.” Then you start to play a little game I like to call, “What Gives Me Gratitude” It’s easy to play. You just silently repeat things to yourself that you are grateful for. It can be anything material or spiritual. It can be anything in, on or about your body and expanding out into infinity.

Every night before I go to bed I write down 5 things I am grateful for. I try to make it different things because who wants to be grateful for the same things over and over. After all variety is the spice of life.

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It goes something like this. “I am grateful for my good health.” “I am grateful for my feet.” I am grateful for my fingers.” “I am grateful for books.” “I am grateful I have food to eat.” I am grateful for another day to be alive.” “I am grateful for freedom of speech.” “I am grateful for my family.” “I am grateful for my ancestors.” “I am grateful for healing.” “I am grateful for God.” “I am grateful for peace on earth.” “I am grateful for love.” “I am grateful for my family.” As you can see this can go on for quite a while. But I think you get the general idea.

So as you begin to be thankful, you begin to shift into a more positive mindset. You start to be a happier person in general and you begin to realize how very fortunate you really are. It really is a gift you give yourself and the people around you will be glad because you will just be happier in general.

Valeria is a Health and Wellness Coach in Northern California. She has a passion for dancing and singing. She encourages everyone to follow their dreams.

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!!

Meet Dancer Shilly Nakedmoon

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Name

Shilly Nakedmoon

What City is home?

Falmouth, Cornwall, UK

What type of dance do you do?

I teach Tribal Fusion Belly Dance and I also can't live without conscious dance practices like 5 rhythms and movement medicine. My dance journey has been a bit of an adventure, from getting kicked out of ballet school for breakdancing when I was young to performing burlesque and erotic striptease!

Who’s your favorite dancer?

Kazuo Ohno is one of the creators of Japanese Butoh Dance. He was very spiritual about his dance and I feel so connected with him, I always think of him as a beautiful flower.

What’s your dream?

To own my own vegan cafe, too run a ritual dance theatre company and for humans to live in harmony with all life on planet earth.

What’s your favorite song?

I giorni by Ludovico Einaudi

What’s one wish you hope comes true?

That humans come together in love to save the planet and it's creatures from extinction.

What is your opinion on wellness?

Everyone is different, so find what makes you feel good and is also kind to the planet and do that! Looking after the planet and your body is the same thing essentially, the earth is our mother after all! So every choice we make that is kind to our body is also being kind to Mother Earth.

Meet Washington DC BellyDancer Varia Strix

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I had the great pleasure of meeting Varia in Portland, Oregon at the 8 elements Initiation Training with Rachel Brice of Datura. Varia is a beautiful dancer and she was super cool and had a great sense of fashion. I asked her if she would share a little of herself with the world and she was happy to share her passion.

I asked Varia to share one of her favorite artists that we danced to in Portland. As you can imagine if you hear music you’ve never heard, you want to know who it is. Varia shared in the group Velvet Owl by Amon Tobin. We did a really cool warm up to this jam!!!

That’s all core strength right there and lots of practice!! Awesome!!

So Varia darling, what type of physical activities have you done in your life? ” I have been dancing since 2008 with a primary focus on bellydance. Prior to that I used to dance East and West Coast swing and Lindy Hop with sprinklings of Walts, Foxtrot, Salsa, Cha Cha and contra dancing. I also enjoys hiking, snowboarding, skiing, rock climbing (indoor and outdoor) and advanced SCUBA.”…( I had no idea she was such a badass!! Wow)

Varia also learned this sequence with Rachel Brice at the Datura 8 elements initaion training.

Here Varia is dancing

Just Dance with Amy Amustela Kirwan and The Rogues


Varia lives in the Washington DC area. She began belly dance in 2007, inspired by Amustela’s performances at the MD Renaissance Fair  . She has explored various styles including American Cabaret, classical Egyptian, and her favorite, tribal fusion. She has performed solo and as a member of local troupes Belladonna’s Bellatrix, Wendy Broadway’s ATS Tribe Masala, and Ayperi Leyla’s Al Kamiya. 

Varia has received training under many world renown instructors including Suhaila Salimpour, Zoe Jakes, and Rachel Brice. Currently she is expanding her growth as a member of the DC Salimpour Collective under director Donna Manalo, and is pursuing certifications in the Salimpour formats and the Datura 8 Elements program.

Varia was smart to take this fan to Portland. It was very hot and she looks so mysterious. Love those bracelets!!

Since receiving her FTT certification, Varia has been invited each year to teach at the Maryland Council for Dance Festival, and has held workshops at various locations in the northern VA area. She is also available for private instruction upon request.

Varia’s focus is to bring awareness to safe body alignment, encourage confidence, and most importantly to have fun!

Congratulations Varia for following her passions and dreams. Dreams are so important. Never give up on your dreams.

Valerie is a Health and Wellness Coach living in Nor Cal. She’s encouraging everyone to follow their passions. Please share and follow this Blog to support and encourage dreams.

Datura Bellydance Workshop in Portland

I had the great honor and privilege to attend a Datura bellydance workshop in Portland, Oregon last week. It was such an amazing adventure. It really took me outside of my comfort zone on so many levels.

What was it that took you out of your comfort zone?

Well first of all I had to get myself packed, get my dog packed and get to the airport on time. If you have ever had the pleasure of missing a flight, then you know, that you don’t want to experience that again. So I started out my trip with a ticket from California Highway Patrol. I stayed cool despite this ticket. But it was a little irritating to say the least.

Then I got to the airport past security. My boarding pass was B14. But I got the gate mixed up and was sitting in Gate B14 for at least an hour. Then someone paged Valerie and they said your supposed to be at gate 20!! How the hell that happened I don’t know but I ran down there and made it to the plane.

Sitting at wrong gate

I made it to my hotel and then realized I had left a very critical bag. My bag that had my toothbrush. Luckily my hotel gave me one and I had toothpaste. I remembered my make up so, all in all, it wasn’t bad.

What was the deal with the Datura Workshop?

Datura is a style of bellydance created by Rachel Brice. She has classes online at Datura online and she teaches workshops in Portland at a cool dance studio called Nia. She has her own Datura studio as well but to accommodate more people she had the training at Nia.

The Datura Phase I Initiation of the 8 elements brought together 40 students from all over the world. Represented countries included: Japan, Australia, Mexico, United Kingdom and United States. There were professional dancers as well as students. But everyone was a student this week to learn and absorb as much as they could from Rachel Brice

Rachel shared part of her dance journey as well as the reason for putting together the course so that this dance form can be shared with the world. She had told us at the beginning of the week that we were going to feel like, “She was filling up our mouths with a fire hose.” At first it made me laugh but by the 3rd day, I completed understood the concept. I felt like my brain was being stretched out really far. I didn’t want to stretch it but then she stretched it for me and I was so glad she did.

What was the most awesome experience?

We would learn these dance sequences. First we would learn the feet, then she would add isolations, then Zils and then finally arms. It doesn’t sound that difficult and even when you see it, it doesn’t look terribly difficult. But playing the Zils while dancing and keeping rhythem while your arms, legs and body are doing something different was mind blowing. And then we did it in perfect unison at full speed. It was like, “Hell Yeah!!!” I couldn’t believe we were able to do it all together. If you’ve ever been around dancers there are usually varying levels of dance experience. But in 3 days she had as doing it. I felt like a complete badass!!!

Just for the record, I felt like such a beginner. There were definitely dancers who had such cool moves. Some were awesome with Zils and everyone just brought their own gifts and talents. Truly an amazing group of people.

She shared her costumes in Costume Cafe which was just amazing. In the video above I was able to see her headdress in person. She shared her inspiration for costumes and also so many things. She is a complete badass. Bruce Lee’s baby sister. I bow down to her.

What was the take away from the training?

Whatever it is you do everyday becomes your practice. You simply have to find the time to do whatever it is you love to do. Sometimes we get stuck in bad habits, or get caught in the responsibilities of life. But no matter, practice is the most important. In talking to Rachel, she explained some of the ways she practices and how she just goes over it over and over again until she gets it down to how she likes it. I was also super happy to know that her absolutely favorite type of dance is improvisational dance which is my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE THING TO DO!!. So it gave me support to know that there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH IMPROVISATION!! And she does such an amazing job with it.

You’re Not Music’s Bitch

What does that mean? It means as dancer that you control your movement. YOu can pause and stretch and pose and dance how you want. Music is there to help you express yourself but you and music work together and you do whatever you want. It’s you dancing after all.

What are my plans going forward?

I realized that more than anything I need a good teacher. I plan to continue to study dance. A good teacher will mold me to their vision. I will be like a child coming to my teacher. I will allow them to teach me and that is the best I can do for right now. There’s nothing wrong with being a student. It’s like letting someone else drive you around for a while and I get to just enjoy the ride. I will continue to pursue my dream of dance. As long as I am dancing, EVERYTHING WILL BE OK.

Valeria is a Health and wellness coach who lives in Northern California. She is sharing her passion and journey with the world and encourages everyone to follow their dreams at all costs. This guy was cool. He didn’t talk much and never moved. XOXO

Cohousing Makes You Happier

Originally Published on www.ic.org on August 20, 2018 By Christopher Kindig

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Loneliness kills. This is what new evidence suggests from a range of reputable institutions and studies, to bolster that likely feeling in your gut about this.

To clarify, loneliness is not just being isolated. Isolation is a public health epidemic. You may spend professional and personal time around other people, but just how connected to them are you really? How well do people really know you — enough to know how well you are truly doing, what your hopes and fears are, and how they can support you on your journey or brighten up your day?

Grace Kim explains how Cohousing, which originated in Denmark decades ago, has helped to close the gap between people where they live, encouraging more interaction, friendships, support, and, well, happiness!

It all revolves around a central courtyard, where people’s kitchen windows are faced, and members of the communities and their children are regularly gathering, playing, and celebrating. There are also double doors in the courtyard leading into the “secret sauce of cohousing” — the Common House.

The Common House is a shared space with a large dining room and kitchen that can accommodate all 28 people living in 9 apartments, plus their guests, on regular meals they share 3 times a week. Meal preparation rotates so the average adult prepares a meal only once every other month. It is an intentional way for neighbors to gather, to become closer, to laugh, and to stave off that pesky loneliness.

Of course everything is not “rainbows and unicorns” in cohousing, but it is a model that brings people closer together, gets them to relate more regularly, and incentivizes them to solve problems together.

The cohousing community featured in this video is Capital Hill Cohousing, located in Seattle, Washington.

You can read more about it from Grace Kim in Communities Magazine issue #177: Urban Communities.

For more education and stories on this topic, check out Cohousing in the Communities Bookstore.

To find places like this around the world, see the Cohousing Communities in the Communities Directory.

Is it Possible for you to Shut Up?

What I learned at a Silent Stay Retreat

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Recently I went to Silent Stay Retreat Center. It was very beautiful, peaceful and relaxing. It’s in the hills of Solano County in Pleasant Valley. Once you get here they encourage silence and it was quite refreshing to not feel pressured to talk to the other participants. I found it quite interesting that all of the participants were women except for one of the facilitators.  You do a couple of meditations per day in a group but the rest of the time you can do whatever you like. They recommend you leave your phone in the car so that you can really unplug. I did notice I wasn’t the only person who didn’t abide by this recommendation.  My excuse was because I needed to be available in case of an emergency with my family.  Needless to say it made me aware that I have a real addiction with my phone.

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One of the things we discussed is that with all of the busyness of life, we become so work oriented that we don’t know how to get our balance. The silence is what helps us to get our balance again. It helps your soul to come home and give itself a rest. It’s a beautiful concept.

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There is a concept of Yin and Yang.  Yang being work, education, doing, achieving, making money, pursuing.  Yin is about being, accepting, allowing, receiving, silence, inner being and soul work. It’s about getting in touch with that little kid inside of you and realizing what your inner child needs. Maybe it needs to play for a bit or get some rest. It also could need to get rid of stuff that is holding you back. Such as holding on to too much stuff.  It’s difficult to listen to your needs without silence.  Your inner child gets drowned out with all of the other noises and sounds.

The thing that was nice about having silence at the retreat, is that I didn’t have to feel that pressure to speak to talk to others. They have notes of paper around so you can communicate with someone if you need to.  It is perfectly fine to be in the same room and not feel responsible to talk to them. That felt very freeing and made me realize how such a simple thing as silence can have a real benefit to our lives.

Western culture is very much goal oriented, analytical, results driven and forces one to “go, go,go.” When really what our soul needs is just some time to sit back under a tree, and enjoy the cool breeze and enjoy the moment. What would happen if we gave ourselves a bit of time?

There was silence but the birds weren’t silent.  In the quiet of the hills, I could hear the beautiful songs of the birds.  There were many wind chimes and other wild life.  Hearing all of the wonderful nature sounds was very peaceful.  There was a beautiful family of turkeys.  The baby turkeys with their mom and dad.  I took the worst picture humanly possible.

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Of course I was reading an Awesome book when I was there that just completely enhanced the experience.  I took the book by Michelle Paisley Reed, called Manifesting Miracles and for the first time I was actually able to meet my soul.  It was such an amazing experience.  My soul is just so happy.  I mead ridiculously happy.  Kind of reminded me of my puppy when she gets so excited.   I was surprised because there are times when I am feeling stressed, sad and feel rushed.  When I saw my soul was happy, it just made me feel happy and want to spend more time with my happy little soul.  I feel so blessed that I was able to have this experience.

I’ve meditated for years but I’ve never really been silent for days on end and I no longer fear silence.  I wonder what would happen if we would all take the time to just shut up for a couple of days.  And of course my ego wants to judge people and tell them, “You really need to shut up.”  But not only is that not nice, but that’s their choice and we all have choices now don’t we?

Valerie is a Health and Wellness Coach and Yoga Instructor.  She’s recuperating from a 26 year career in law enforcement.  After 9 months retired or repurposed she’s finally allowing herself a chance to truly rest.  She’s learning to listen to that voice inside of her and listening to what it wants.  You can read more about Valerie here.

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10 Ways To Forgive Yourself & Let Go Of The Past

Originally Published on MindBodygreen.com on October 29, 2013 By Megan Hale

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Have you ever noticed how you can hold on to past mistakes long after they occurred? Some of us hold on to things for years!

Forgiveness is a process. It does not happen over night and the process will be different for everyone. But no matter how long it takes, there’s hope! Here are some steps you can take toward that journey:

1. Become clear on your morals and values as they are right now.

The reason most of us feel guilt or shame for actions done in the past is because those actions are not in line with our current morals and values. Our past wrongs can actually clue us in to what we hold important. By identifying our morals and values, we start to get a clearer picture as to “why” we’re hurting over what we’ve done, or what others did to us.

2. Realize that the past is the past.

This seems fairly straightforward, but when we can really wrap our head around the fact that we can’t undo the past, the past is done, those things happened, we open ourselves up to more acceptance. Increased acceptance can lead to the emotional healing we are all looking for.

3. Create a “re-do.”

Never underestimate the power of a “re-do”. Write down how you would have done things differently if you could go back and do it again. In doing so, we affirm that we not only learned from our past mistake, but that if we had the skills we have now, back then, we would have done things differently.

4. Realize you did the best you could at the time.

The way we respond depends on the skills we have, the frame of mind we’re in, and how we perceive the situation at that moment. Maybe we didn’t have as much objectivity, or acted out of survival or protection mode. Maybe we’d let stress build up, which put us at a higher risk of responding poorly. Whatever the factors, cut yourself a break. If you learn from it, it was never in vain.

5. Start acting in accordance with your morals and values.

The best thing you can do for yourself in order to forgive is start replacing the negative behavior and thoughts with more appropriate ones that are congruous with your morals and values. By so doing, you reaffirm to yourself that you can handle situations in the way you want to. This can lead to a sense of pride, which is a huge part of building self-esteem.

6. Identify your biggest regrets.

When I work with clients on moving on from their past, it can be very overwhelming for them because they see so many regrets. It’s often helpful to categorize these things because people often only hold on to a handful of big categories/patterns. Working on patterns of behavior is often more helpful than working on individual regrets.

7. Tackle the big ones.

There may be some regrets that don’t seem to improve, and they’re going to require some extra work. I call it “clearing your conscience.” This means it might take bringing this regret into the room and apologizing for your past mistake.

8. Turn the page.

At some point, you have to accept that the past has happened and you’ve done everything in your power to amend past mistakes. It’s now time to turn the page and accept those events as part of your story. They’ve all contributed to making you who you are. Being grateful for those experiences allows you to move on and truly forgive yourself.

9. Cut yourself some slack.

When we learned how to ride a bike, most of us realized it would probably take a few tries before achieving perfection. New behavior and thinking patterns are no different. They’re both skills. Cut yourself some slack while you’re on a new learning curve. Realize that you’re going to make mistakes. We all do.

10. Move toward self-love.

The last step in building self-esteem is moving toward loving yourself. Think kind thoughts toward yourself and show yourself some compassion. If we can learn to think of ourselves as our best friend, to speak to ourselves with love and kindness, and put ourselves as a priority, it reaffirms that we believe we are worth it. Engage in psychotherapy or coaching if you need some outside perspective in this area. Seek books on this subject. Surround yourself with supportive people.

You are more than your past mistakes, and I promise you, you are so worth it!!

10 Ways To Forgive Yourself & Let Go Of The Past

Megan Hale

Megan Hale, LPC is a therapist and Certified Purpose Clarity Coach ®. Her counseling specialties include depression, anxiety, and relationship issues while her coaching focuses on.

How I started Meditating

buddha-buddhism-statue-religion-46177.jpegMeditation is something that I started doing during yoga during Savasana or corpse pose.    I am not going to say that it is particularly easy.  And sometimes it’s down right difficult.  It’s not something that I always feel like doing but, afterwards, I am always glad that I did.  It’s kind of like when you first start working out.  How at first it really sucks and you’re not really enjoying it.  But then something happens one day and you can’t do it and then all of a sudden you’re disappointed because  you weren’t able to work out.

That’s kind of how meditation is for me.  I did it for a long time before I ever started to enjoy any benefits.  I did it because I knew that I should be doing it.  But to be honest, I wasn’t really feeling the benefits until I committed to a regular practice of meditation.  I committed to 3 days a week of meditation.  Three days a week was because of course I was much too busy to do it everyday.  But I could commit to 3 days a week and that was after years of doing it not regularly.  I just knew that I wanted to become more spiritual, so I committed to 3 days.  That was after 12 years of faking meditation.  You know just doing it randomly and being mad because I wasn’t getting the many benefits.

So after I committed to 3 days per week, I have to say that my experience was actually quite magical.  It’s really hard to describe my experience but I just started to feel really calm, strong and super positive.  Things just really stopped bothering me and I started to just have shit really start going right.  I just felt that I was being super blessed.  If I wanted something, it would just magically appear.  I needed a videographer, and I found his card in a coffee shop (thanks Kristian).  I needed help with my Blog and someone gave me an awesome Web Designer’s info.

Now obviously there are so many different ways of meditating but I recommend doing a guided meditation and sticking with the same one for a while.  Do it at least 21 times.  But give it a good chance.  And it’s not magic but it could be.  But you have to give it a chance.  Remember you don’t just brush your teeth one time and think you never have to do it again.  You don’t just eat one time and think, “OK I don’t need to do that again.”  And obviously you can’t just work out one time and think,”That’s it I don’t like exercising so I won’t do that again.”  No you have to do it over and over. (sorry to be the bearer of bad news on this one.)

Meditation is the same way.  You have to give it a chance and do it over and over.  In this short video, Maggie, my beautiful niece does a short meditation that will give you a little bit of peace.   Please relaxing sunwatch here.

Here are 20 reasons to start meditation.

Happy Meditating and don’t get mad at me when you start feeling peaceful, relaxed and shit starts going right for you.

Valerie is a Health and wellness coach that lives in Northern California with her daughter and puppy.  When she’s not dancing, she’s singing.  You can check out her moves here.  Please subscribe to my youtube channel so you don’t miss out.  Thank you!!