She rushed to visit her cousin when she learned about the accident. She knew her cousin would be ok so she decided to take her portable keyboard to the hospital to visit. She showed him the keyboard and right away he started playing a melody that sounded familiar. He said, “Let me play this one I remember.” His fingers were much to big for the childish keyboard. but the piece was by composer Johann Sebastian Bach and it was Prelude in C Major. Then it dawned on her that was the exact piece she had been working on with her music teacher.
What were the odds that he would pick the same piece of music? It wasn’t until later that she realized that this was some kind of synchronicity. Or it could have been pure coincidence. But deep in her heart she knew it was not coincidence it was a sign to show how strong their bond is. It doesn’t matter if you have not seen family for months or years, the bond is still there and there’s nothing you can do to stop it.
It was a sign to continue to study. It was a sign to realize that it doesn’t matter if you don’t see each other frequently the bond is still there. It was a reminder of how much she loved him. It was a sign of hope. It was a reminder to keep practicing. It was a beautiful moment she would cherish always.
Let’s face it in this point in time everyone has a phone and is probably spending too much time on it. All you have to do is look around at teenagers walking down the street looking at their phone with their neck in a bad position to realize that this getting to be too much. Also the amount of car accidents that are caused by texting and driving is a big enough cause for alarm. But let’s just say you are smart enough not to walk/drive and text. You might say, “I don’t do those things, so it’s not a problem.”
First do a little review of your screen time and you will see exactly how much time you actually spend on your phone per day. Once that is viewed one might begin to realize the amount of time that is actually spent on their phone. Once you view that, you can begin to decide if that’s really how you want to spend your time.
An article from Forbes discusses the negative impacts of social media. But also the physical act of being on the phone usually results in your posture being put in a really bad position. Next time your on your phone, put in on camera and take a picture to see what position your neck and shoulders are in. Most likely, it’s not pretty.
Is it helping you reach your goals?
Depending on your goals, is your phone helping you reach your goals. There are many beneficial apps such as Subliminal Vision Boards that really do help you reach your goals. And also fitness apps and various app such as Calm that really do help you with your goals. But is scrolling mindlessly through Twitter really helping you? If the answer is no then you might decide that it’s time to give your phone a break. It’s doable but it will take a little practice because to be honest, it can turn into an addiction.
How To Get Off Your Phone
First thing is to realize that you might have a problem with it. Unless you need the phone for work, you’re going to have to make a little plan and figure out what you can do to replace the mindless scrolling.
1)Decide that at a certain hour, you are going to take a break from it. Have a pad of paper nearby because you will need that paper to write down all of the urges you have to get on the phone. Suppose you are on a break and you say to yourself, “I must text my spouse and tell them I love them.” Write it down on the note pad and after your break from your phone is over, send the text. Perhaps you get the urge to look up the weather for tomorrow, write down on your trustee pad to look up weather for tomorrow. And then you can look up later. You get the idea.
2) What are you going to do during the time, you’re not on the phone? This is the fun part. There is so much you can do when you are not on your phone. You can read, write, sing, color, clean up your place, decorate, play a musical instrument, dance, mow the lawn, wash your car, cook, go grocery shopping, write a letter… the possibilities are endless. Basically you can live in the real world. You can plan what you actually want instead of being a phone zombie.
3) Set up a support network. Maybe there is a friend you have that you can call up and tell them what you are trying to do. There are probably support groups to help. Just know that the urge to get on your phone will pass. It’s called urge surfing. Be aware of the urge to use the phone and breathe and allow it to pass by like a cloud. It can also be used for other addictions.
It’s not easy to do change habits but if you clean instead of get on your phone, you’ll have a clean place in no time. Put that phone down and nobody will get hurt.
2019 was a great year for performers at EnlightenYourLives.com. These artists reached out of their comfort zones and decided to share their passions with the world. As an artist, one of the scariest thing to do is actually share your passion. One can work on their passion for months and years and still not share it. Why don’t they share it? Most likely it’s fear. Why should an artist be afraid to share of themselves? It can be a fear of the response they will receive but also fear of rejection or being ridiculed. It’s an uncomfortable feeling to perform in front of others. But after a while, one does get used to it. When the joy of expression overcomes the fear to perform, then one is ready to share of themselves. Meet these brave Princess Warriors who have risen above the fear.
Meet Varia Strix from Washington DC
Our first featured artist is Varia Strix. Varia has a real passion for life and has many hobbies such as being an awesome photographer and a beautiful dancer. If you say, Belly Dance Workshop, she comes running. She is a pleasure to know and she gets a lot of credit for being courageous enough to be the first featured dancer to be interviewed in 2019. We wish Varia continued success in 2020. To learn more about Varia you may read the full article here.https://enlightenyourlives.com/2019/08/18/meet-washington-dc-bellydancer-varia-strix/
Vanessa is a talented and beautiful yoga teacher and dancer that is active in her Texas community teaching dance and yoga. A real princess warrior that is also a healer. We want to thank Vanessa for sharing her passion and joy with the world. We also wish Vanessa continued in 2020 and beyond. Here is the full article.
Meet Nor Cal Dancer Valeria Star
Valeria Star from Nor Cal loves to dance and sing. In this article Valeria shares her passion for dance. She’s been dancing over 40 years and doesn’t intend to stop anytime soon. She encourages everyone to follow their passions whatever they might be. Click here for full article.
Here’s Shilly from United Kingdom
Shilly is talented on multiple levels. She’s a fashion designer, dancer and also makes some delicious cacao drinks that one day will be tasted in UK. Shilly directed this captivating video that is highly recommend for everyone to watch. Shilly also teaches belly dance in her community and she gets extra credit for getting kicked out of ballet. We want to wish Shilly much success in 2020 and want to thank her for sharing her passion with us. Full article is https://enlightenyourlives.com/2019/11/10/meet-dancer-shilly-nakedmoon/.
Anna Puts Hungary on the Map
Finally meet Annamaria from Hungary. She is such a talented dancer. She really knows how to draw in an audience and keep their attention. It’s obvious she knows how to dance and really commands the stage. It’s not an easy thing as a soloist to keep the audience engaged. But her athleticism and beautiful flowing movements are superb. Bravo to Anna and we wish her a successful future in all she does. Don’t miss this one or well, you’ll miss out. https://enlightenyourlives.com/2019/11/18/meet-dancer-annamaria-benko-fothy/
Thank you again to all the beautiful people that contributed to this article. Keep it up in 2020 because the world needs more of your passion, joy and light. Here’s to an awesome and safe New Year!!
In December 2019 the opportunity to perform at a local Christmas Tree Lighting resulted in this performance. Trees are so lovely and a Christmas Tree magnifies their beauty. Singing about trees can make you feel glorious!
This song was rehearsed for about three weeks. It was originally not going to be published because of the artists dislike for the performance but after a musician friend gave it the thumbs up, Valeria decided to release it.
Hopefully we can find the time to enjoy the beautiful lights this holiday season.
This is a short story about my Uncle, Gilbert. In 1955 he joined the Air Force and traveled to Guam. While he was there he purchased two identical tea sets and sent one to his Mother, Catalina and the other to his sister in law, Eleanor, which happens to be my mom.
What’s The Significance of The Tea Set?
Well you see my Uncle Gilbert passed away some years ago and imagine the surprise of my cousin when she received this tea set in the mail. This tea set had been well cared for since my mom received it. She always had it on display in a special spot that for some reason she knew where it was but I don’t remember it at all. My mom took it with her everywhere she moved since 1955. The tea set went from California to Pennsylvania to Arkansas to San Jose, CA then back to Stockton. It had moved several times in Stockton.
My mom really loved that tea set or she would not have taken it with her so many times.
A Car Crash Is the Catalyst To Finding Tea Set
In February 2019, a car ran into my mom’s home and the kitchen needed to be repaired. Everything from the kitchen had to be removed. Down came the tea set. It was placed in a storage pod. Then finally in December 2019 as my mom was putting her kitchen back together she decided to give me the tea set so I could send it to my cousin, Julie, my Uncle Gilbert’s eldest daughter.
Finally The Tea Set Makes It Home
After receiving the tea set from my mother, I knew I wanted to send it to my cousin as soon as possible. I just wanted it back home safe. I felt so happy to send it to my cousin. I didn’t open the box to look inside because I wanted to be surprised to see it. (I still don’t remember ever seeing this tea set in my house growing up. But whatever.) I finally saw the pictures on Facebook when my cousin posted pictures and it was so beautiful. It really made me happy that his daughter received something that her father sent half way round the world to end up back home safe and sound 64 years later.
Yesterday while walking my dog, I looked up and saw this beautiful rainbow. It really reminded me that it’s time to stop being sad and mourning. A reminder that beautiful things can come from darkness. A calling to continue to create. It’s the small creations that matter. A calling that can only be quenched by your creator or creations.
I’m taking some much needed time off to rest and also plan for my future. A little planning now will give you rewards in the future so plan and dream big because dreaming is free so may as well dream big!!
Valeria Star is a Health and Wellness Coach following her passion. Wishing everyone a Happy Holiday Season!!!
Have you ever had to get over a broken heart from a relationship? It can be one of the most painful things to endure. It’s like your heart gets ripped out of your body and you’re supposed to walk around like everything is normal on the outside. But on the inside you’re so sad, depressed and you can also be filled with feelings of anger and rage depending on the circumstances of the break up. There can also be real serious issues such as alimony, child support and loss of income. But let’s just pretend it’s just a normal break up. Also assume that there are no legal consequences and you won’t be in financial turmoil because that’s just too much to deal with in a single blog post.
Establish a Support
It’s time to call your network of support. Friends, family, psychological support and anyone else you trust to tell your story. Just be honest about what happened. You have 24 hours to create this network because you don’t want to just keep talking about this issue for weeks which can turn into years. You can have more than 24 hours to set this up but the whole point is that you don’t want to get over this relationship. The longer you continue to discuss it and rehash the hash, the longer it will continue. Tell your network, “I need support getting over this relationship. Can you help me do this?” 9 times out of 10 they will say, “Yes, I’ve got your back. What can I do to help you.” You need emotional support only. This isn’t a smear campaign and you don’t have to share every gory detail. Just say you need support getting over this relationship and leave it at that. Of course you can tell the whole story but just know the more you continue to discuss it, the more you are breathing life into a dead relationship.
There are Different Levels of BreakUP
Perhaps you need to develop a relationship with yourself instead of giving everything to a relationship. Perhaps you want to keep the lines of communication open because there’s a possibility you might get back together. Perhaps you just need to establish firm boundaries within the relationship. So we’ll start out there and then go to the point where you are literally DONE with the relationship. NO WAY will you go back!!
Stage 1 (Keeping Options Open)
Now perhaps your partner is ignoring you and not giving you the time of day. You still love eachother but it’s not working for you. You spend your time obsessing about when you will hear from them and crying because they don’t text you back like they used to. Something is wrong and you don’t know what to do. What do you do?
Answer: Call your network and tell them you need support. You must decide what it is that you want for yourself. So what do you want? Tell your partner in an I statement. “I have decided to start taking care of my health. I am going to start walking and eating more healthy.” As an example. If they don’t respond back that’s their choice but you will still allow them to remain in your life for 30 days. After you send that final text give them 30 days to respond. If they don’t respond within 30 days BLOCK THEM on your phone. If they want to get a hold of you, they can send you an email. Now during this 30 days you will need to start new habits. Perhaps it’s a great time to start a new hobby or maybe just start to clean up your place. Stay busy. Read books, watch movies, connect with friends but under no circumstances are you to contact them. After the 30 days you will have more clarity about how you want to move forward.
My Heart is Broken but I Cannot Stay
If you are done and ready to move on you will need your network. You will need a journal and perhaps professional help. You are going to have to go 30 days with no contact from this individual. It’s most recommended that you block them from your phone and cut off all communication. You will miss them. You will cry. You will want to call them to tell them something funny. During those times that you want to contact them, pull out the journal and write down your feelings. Call someone from your network and tell them how you’re doing. If you are feeling anxious or depressed, contact your Dr.
It’s during times like this that singing and dancing can really help you to feel better. You have to get your endorphins going to help you feel better. Avoid alcohol and drugs because they don’t really help on the long run. They are just a big nasty band aid that is only going to make you feel worse later. Later you are sad and hungover. It’s better to just feel your feelings and then the next day you will feel better day by day. Again emphasis on cardio. Start easy and try to do something you enjoy. Listen to upbeat happy music. Watch a happy movie!! It will get better baby but one thing is for sure, you won’t be putting up with treatment that is unbecoming of you.
At this time of you gratitude is in the allegedly in the air. It is on everyone’s mind as they make Thanksgiving plans. But, have you ever given anyone a gift and never heard anything back? Does it make you want to rush out and get them another gift to throw into the black hole of disregard? Or when you give a gift and you get a big smile with a hug and a big “Thank You I appreciate that so much!! It was very thoughtful and kind of you.” Then they follow up with a text, email or a card to again say thank you. Which one of those people do you think is happy?
It’s not that everyone has to be happy or even that you have to receive gratitude but it works the same way with the Universe and with God. You see when you show gratitude what happens is that you change your vibration into a positive mindset. Things may not be perfect. You can actually be going through a very difficult time but still show appreciation for things.
How Does it Work?
I believe in whatever you put out comes back to you. And gratitude has been proven to shift your energy from negative to positive in the blink of an eye. You kind of have to experiment but it’s not going to just happen overnight. You have to PRACTICE it over and over and then it just becomes a positive way of viewing things.
How do you do it? Well you simply have to take a deep breath in and say silently to yourself, “I am grateful for my breath.” Then you start to play a little game I like to call, “What Gives Me Gratitude” It’s easy to play. You just silently repeat things to yourself that you are grateful for. It can be anything material or spiritual. It can be anything in, on or about your body and expanding out into infinity.
Every night before I go to bed I write down 5 things I am grateful for. I try to make it different things because who wants to be grateful for the same things over and over. After all variety is the spice of life.
It goes something like this. “I am grateful for my good health.” “I am grateful for my feet.” I am grateful for my fingers.” “I am grateful for books.” “I am grateful I have food to eat.” I am grateful for another day to be alive.” “I am grateful for freedom of speech.” “I am grateful for my family.” “I am grateful for my ancestors.” “I am grateful for healing.” “I am grateful for God.” “I am grateful for peace on earth.” “I am grateful for love.” “I am grateful for my family.” As you can see this can go on for quite a while. But I think you get the general idea.
So as you begin to be thankful, you begin to shift into a more positive mindset. You start to be a happier person in general and you begin to realize how very fortunate you really are. It really is a gift you give yourself and the people around you will be glad because you will just be happier in general.