How’s This Pandemic Treating You?

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“I Don’t Think There’s a Feeling You’re Having That I Can’t Validate.” Janice in Terms of Endearment

No matter who you are this pandemic is having an effect on you. From the children who are suddenly at home from school, to the workers who are suddenly out of a job to the people who have contracted coronavirus, this isn’t a joke. This is a historical moment in history and whatever you’re feeling, you are entitled to feel that way.

This is a dynamic situation that is very much changing moment to moment and day to day. For those of us that are given the great privilege to shelter in place, consider yourself among the most privileged. Nobody said privileged was easy. And however you choose to deal with it is definitely up to you. On social media you can get a feeling for how people are coping. There are people who are drinking alcohol to lots of comfort eating and lots of fear is undeniable.

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I Got Accused of Spreading Panic

I didn’t publish anything on my website regarding my views because it wasn’t publish worthy. After all the leaders were saying this was a hoax. But I was posting on social media about washing hands and sounding the alarm because many of my friends were running around going to plays, using public transportation and just enjoying their life but there was the corona virus beginning to spread and I wanted my friends to know that it was coming and what they can do to protect themselves. It was a stress response for me to feel that I was doing something. I don’t regret doing this but now I feel that people are now taking this issue seriously for the most part so I’ve decided to let this go. I just didn’t want to see my friends get sick because I didn’t say something.

So How Are You Doing?

You really have to look at your behavior. I talk to many people and they act like they are so cool. Like nothing is bothering them. I’m like really? Do you realize what’s happening? Maybe they are numb. Maybe they don’t know how to cope so they just don’t feel anything. But in any case we are all entitled to our own feelings. And how other people are coping shouldn’t really be too much of your concern. Of course if your child is upset, you want to comfort them or if someone you love wants to talk about their feelings you can listen. But for the most part the only person you can really have any influence over is yourself.

What Are You Doing During This LockDown?

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Well you really do have many options. You can eat whatever you want, you can watch whatever you want on TV, you can read whatever you want and so forth. But the actions you take can have very different effects on your life. If you stress eat while watching news and drinking alcohol, you might end up gaining alot of weight and maybe become an alcoholic which can have tragic consequences.

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Or you can still be really concerned about what’s happening and maybe decide that you really can’t deal with this and you can give it over to your higher power. Just really ask God to take the burden and like a boss, he will. That’s what I chose to do because I was freaking out to be quite honest.

You’re Literally Not Alone

Everyone else in the whole world is coping with this situation. So there are many people you can talk to about this situation. If your friends and family aren’t encouraging, find a support group on line or get professional help. There are many resources available to assist you. This is an unusual time but we will get through this.

Ask Yourself What You Can Do

Since many people have to stay at home, the best thing to do is to establish a routine. Wake up around the same time (but don’t beat yourself up if you struggle with this.) Stay hydrated no matter what and start to make a list of some things you enjoy doing. Also a list of things that have to get done like laundry and dishes. Look around and see if there are any special projects that you can contemplate working on. Cleaning is an essential function as well as laundry and some sort of food preparation and or going out for food.

There’s Nothing Wrong With Prayer

Prayer is very powerful. It not only helps the people that are praying but it also helps the people you are praying for. So do me a favor and say a prayer for the your loved ones, for a vaccine and for all of the essential workers that are really taking care of us during this difficult time. If you are fortunate enough to shelter in place we really do owe them a lot of appreciation. Maybe reach out to one of your essential worker friends and family and let them know you care.

It’s OK to Have Fun

I’ve been called a party monkey back in the day. What can I say other than I like to have fun. So I choose to listen to great music and dance and sing. On March 31, 2020 it was JS Bach’s 335th Birthday. I did a video to celebrate. This is a great piece of music. This is what I do for fun but you can surely enjoy or do whatever you enjoy.

Dancing in a small space. Do you have a small space to boogie?
Valeria is on Shelter at Home in Nor Cal. She encourages everyone to stay positive, healthy and follow their dreams. There’s no time like the present to make yourself happy. No matter where we are on the beautiful planet, we are all in this together. Sending lots of positive energy to everyone. Peace is here and now manifest.

Can Being Bossy Save a Life?

It was 1999 in Bakersfield, CA. Lea went to visit her daughter, Gigi and after the long drive from Northern California to Kern County they decided to grab a bite to eat at a Chinese restaurant. They entered and sat at a booth with cool vinyl seats.

As they sat down waiting to place their order, Gigi who was a trained responder during emergency situations noticed a young family and the Mom was carrying a 3 month old swaddled baby. It was a multigenerational family and Gigi noticed that the baby was turning blue. The mom was patting the baby on the back but seemed completely oblivious to the fact that her baby was choking.

Lea had over 30 years experience as a nurse. She was the oldest of nine children plus had four of her own. Gigi knew that her mom was better able to deal with the situation than she was. After all Gigi was the youngest of 4 children, never had kids and knew that this situation really needed a professional.

Valerie’s mom Leonora

Gigi had experience being very bossy. When she told people to do stuff, they did it or else there was some kind of consequence. That’s just reality baby. So she did what any intelligent person would do, she said, “Mom that baby is choking, go over there and save it.”

Without blinking an eye, Lea stood up, walked over there and grabbed the baby from the young mom, turned it over on it’s stomach on her arm and gave the baby two good whacks to the back to its shoulder blades. Instantly the baby coughed up and started to cry. She gave the baby back to the mom and they cleaned up the baby and went on to eat their meal.

Lea went back to their table like a boss and it was like nothing happened. Gigi said, “Oh my, you saved that babies life and the parents don’t even realize what you did.” They started to laugh and Gigi told her mom, “You’re a hero Mom. You just saved that kids life.” She said, “I know.” She looked over and saw them enjoying their meal. She said, “Well I wouldn’t have known what to do if you hadn’t told me.”

Moral to the story, don’t be afraid to tell someone what to do if you know what needs to be done. If Lea wouldn’t have taken action, Gigi would have but all is well that ends well. Also Lea and Gigi got a lot of points from God for saving a life. God said, thanks, I got your back.

This is Lea (Eleanor) and Gigi (Valerie). This story is a factual story told in Third person but it really did happen. Valerie just wanted to write a lil short story. Thank God Lea didn’t start asking questions and she just followed orders. Guess being bossy comes in handy now and then.

How to Love Yourself

So many people spend their time taking care of other people.  Between work, house work, meal prepping, working out, having a social  life there just isn’t much left after that.  At some point the tread on one’s tires can become very thin.  So now the concept of self love can seem a little selfish because most people are raised to think of other people first before thinking about themselves.  But in actuality this is not in our best interest or our friends and families best interest either.  You are much more available to friends and family if you are well taken care of.

Then there are the many people that experience self hatred.  The self hatred can come about for a variety of reasons.  Maybe there is a history of abuse or neglect.  It could also be due to depression, illness, body image and numerous other issues such as substance abuse or guilt.

Although it is fantastic to want to set goals to improve yourself whether it be to lose weight, organize your closet, graduate from College, get a new job etc.  The most perfect place to start is just to accept yourself exactly where you are right now.  Accept those self perceived flaws.

At one time we were all innocent little babies.  We just enjoyed being alive.  We were content to just look at our toes and realize all of the beauty and glory of life.  Somewhere along the way LIFE HAPPENED, and we lost that zest for life.  But it is still in there in everyone.  We just have to take a moment to remember.

So what are some of the ways you can love yourself?  Here are 5 things you can do to love yourself that do not cost any money.


1)Set your timer for 5 minutes and listen to your breath.  Allow yourself some quiet time just to sit quietly and breathe deeply all the way down to your belly.  Whatever thoughts come to your mind just observe them but remain unattached.  It’s a starting point just to see how it feels just to sit and breathe with yourself.  As you breathe you will notice that you will start to relax a bit.

2)Start a gratitude journal or write down your thoughts.  A gratitude journal will help to lift your mood because you will be thinking about the things you are grateful for and it shifts your vibrational energy.  This is a great way to end your day.  While it is easy to go on a rant and complain in your journal, it can become a negative habit if that’s all one does in complain while journaling.  It is definitely great to get out the frustration but then end it on a positive note with something of gratitude.  Everyone has something to be thankful for.

3)Chew your food.  Well it may seem obvious that of course one chews their food.  However maybe you can slow it down and chew a little bit longer.  It will help your digestion and perhaps curb your appetite a bit.  Think about making it a rule to only eat when you’re relaxed.  I know this can be easier said than done.  Especially if you are standing over the sink eating ice cream out of the carton.  (We’ve all been there.)  Slowing down your chewing can definitely help.  Give it a try and see what happens.


4)Go for a walk.  Walking is excellent at relieving stress and also at getting some exercise.  It can help if you are in a funk and just need sometime to get your thoughts straight.  If you are seriously stressed out try to imagine as you are walking that your feet are really connecting with the earth and that you are being grounded.  Sometimes our minds can go wild with thoughts.  But if you can learn to ground yourself, you can bring yourself back to the present moment and know that everything will be OK.

5)Last but definitely not least is to pray.  There is much to be said about praying.  I could probably write much more than just one little paragraph about praying.  But Praying to God, Jesus, the Universe, Mary, Arch Angel Michael, Arch Angel Raphael, Buddha or whatever you find to be your higher power, just do it.  There is power in prayer.  And it is there for your 24 hours per day, 365 days per year.  There is no prayer that is too big or too small.  All you have to do is ask for guidance, protection, knowledge, wisdom, strength and you will get what you need.  But you must be willing to ask.  Many people have been turned off of prayer for a variety of reasons.  But do give it a try.  What have you got to lose?  Nothing… What have you got to gain?  A MIRACLE.  All I know is it works and I feel very thankful for it.

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Your thoughts are appreciated and wanted so don’t hesitate to leave your comments. XOXO!!!!

Valerie is a Health and Wellness Coach and a Yoga Instructor.  She lives in Northern California with her daughter.