Talking to Friends is Such a Beautiful Thing

Are You A Talker or A Listener?

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No matter who you are it is such a wonderful thing to talk to people. During a pandemic phone conversations are essential. Talking to someone can really brighten their day. Especially if you are talking to someone who lives alone or even if they are married. They need someone to talk to as well. So please don’t be afraid to talk to someone on the phone.

Why Is it Important to Talk?

As human beings we really do like human interaction. We like to laugh and tell stories and listen to people’s advice. Although it can be difficult at times to connect to people if you are home, it is so worth it. It can seem like a waste of time but it’s really not. It’s important to use our voices to communicate our thoughts and feelings. Having a human to connect with is essential for humans to thrive. Also speaking is a skill which must be cultivated.

But, I Don’t Have Any Friends

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That might be true that you don’t have friends but there is usually someone you can text and just say hi. Then if you feel comfortable asking them if it’s OK to call them. If you are having a difficult time, you can tell them you are seeking counseling and if they would be interested in talking to you. It really does help if you can meet people from a church. All you have to say is you want to talk about Jesus and they will come talk to you in a hurry. Now it doesn’t have to be Christianity but I’m just saying you can find friends in Churches. Don’t be afraid to reach out. Plus once you start talking to your friend then you realize they are going through challenging times too and you know you aren’t alone.

So What Should I Talk About?

Do you ever feel like you don’t know what to say to someone? When you talk do you know how to start a conversation? Some suggestions are here:

  • How’s your summer going?
  • What have you been up to?
  • This pandemic is so weird, how are you doing?
  • I watched this really good movie, have you heard of this movie?

You get the idea. With these questions the conversation will start flowing. And then you will get a chance to talk too. It’s kind of like a verbal tennis match if it’s a good conversation.

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Picking Up The Phone Can Truly Save a Life

These are odd times and people may feel vulnerable. So talking to a friend can give them the hope and encouragement they need to make it through another day. It makes the difference between them feeling supported and connected to alone and sad. There are times to be alone and strong but there are also times when it’s great to connect and try to laugh if possible. There’s plenty to laugh at if you look for funny stuff.

Valeria is keeping it going during Pandemic 2020 although this photo was taken in 2019. She’s a piano student and enjoys singing and dancing. She also started a podcast. She encourages people to pursue their passions.

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How To Communicate with Humans in 2020

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Is it Just Me or Is Communication Changing and not in a good way?

In 2020 communication is much different from how it was just a short 15 years ago. Before if you wanted to connect with someone you would write them a letter, call them on the phone or you would knock on their door bell. Obviously things have changed because now you can: email, fax, text, Facetime and message in numerous applications.

While it’s great to be able to send a quick text to tell someone whatever, if you are trying to have an actual relationship with someone, modern forms of technology just don’t bring the connection that many people yearn for.

Talking is a Great Form of Communication

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Throughout careers many people are required to talk to others. Teachers do it and lawyers, doctors, nurses and many professions talk during their career. How would you feel if your Doctor texted you instead of an actual physical exam and conversation? They just give you a thumbs up and end the appointment. Most people would probably feel brushed off and like they weren’t really listened to or understood.

With many people if their primary method of communication is via texting and messaging what happens to their verbal skills? Talking is a skill that requires practice just like anything else.

Sometimes you get tired of talking when you work. Then when you deal with your significant other all you get is a thumbs up or often times no response whatsoever to a text message. Is this because there’s just too much information and so they really cannot connect with you because they are too busy on social media or whatever other distraction. It can definitely harm relationships? Makes you wonder…

How To Improve Communication?

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Often time people really do want to connect with other people. But often times it turns into a frustration game of cat and mouse. So how can you improve your communication? If it’s someone you really want to connect with a phone conversation of video chat is a great way to connect. You might have to schedule a time to talk. And here are some great conversation starters.

“Hello, how are you?” “How was your day?” “What have you been up to lately?” And then watch the conversation blossom as the dialog goes back and forth. It might start out simple and next thing you know your discussing Japanese fashion. If someone tells you, “I was watching a movie.” Don’t just say, “OK bye, you’re busy.” Ask this person, “Really? What movie are you watching? Is it good? I haven’t seen it.” Maybe they will say, “Come on Over.” Or maybe you might realize after you find out what kind of movies they watch that this person is a moron and you don’t want anything to do with them but if you didn’t talk to them, you would never know.

The main point is that conversation is a great way to connect with someone.

You Can’t Go Back

2020 is here and we can’t go back to the way things used to be. But if you find someone that you enjoy their conversation, don’t be afraid to call them up and say hi. Also if you find it difficult to talk to others, that just means you need to do it more. Reading will help you come up with words to say. But if you stop talking at some point you might become mute.

Valeria is a Health and Wellness Coach living in Northern California. She encourages everyone to follow their passions.